Finding what you want

Finding what you want

"Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated" - Confuscious Finding and getting what you want is not what we have been taught. Tireless pursuit, self sacrifice, SMART goals and 10 year plans whilst they have their uses, can lead you on a journey similar to a dog chasing its own tail.  The truth is, that hard work, goals and plans are never the destination, they are the signposts that point the way to the destination. Useful for the traveller so that they know they are travelling in the right direction. Signposts can only ever provide a…
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Climbing partnerships: How to avoid the 4 horsemen of the apocalypse

Climbing partnerships: How to avoid the 4 horsemen of the apocalypse

Climbing partnerships: How to avoid 4 horsemen of the apocalypse Every so often during a coaching session it becomes apparent that there is a problem that is lying under the surface. I often find that because it is not fair to blame ones climbing partner for ones climbing performance, most people that I coach try not to bring it to the surface or even admit it to themselves. And yet throughout the session the topic of their climbing partner will slowly become the elephant in the room as it rears its head subtly in conversation over and over again. I…
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What is phobia therapy and how can it help?

What is phobia therapy and how can it help?

Phobia therapy. What is that? How does it work? Will it work for me? People ask many questions and have a great deal of preconceptions about how to let go of fears and phobias. I wanted to share a no-nonsense approach to answering what phobia therapy is and how it works. As a disclaimer, this blog is of course my own opinions based on my training, my research and my practice working with clients and does not extend to all therapists and practitioners offering phobia treatment. How does a phobia work? A phobic response is designed to keep you safe.…
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Just Calm Down

Just Calm Down

“Never in the history of calming down has anyone ever calmed down by being told to calm down” States a popular meme doing the rounds on social media. Whilst I would primarily agree with this statement, I think it is worth taking a closer look. There are two problems about being told to calm down. The sentence doesn’t tell you how to do it. If I gave you three balls and told you to juggle, then providing you haven’t practised at juggling, you will find three balls would quickly end up on the floor. Repeating myself or saying “Just juggle…
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