Here are some thoughts about finding what you want
Is what you want and what you say you want the same thing?
Is it okay for you to have what you want?
If you get it, how will that change the way you live or the way others see you?
If you get it what might you lose?
Do you believe you are capable of or deserve to have what you want?
How long do you permit yourself to strive for what you want?
How long do you permit yourself to enjoy what you want once you have it?
What is the criteria for knowing when you have what you want? And will you realise it consistently when you have it?
Is it what you want or what everyone else/society wants you to want?
Do you already have it?
Have you had it, or something similar in the past? What happened immediately after you had it?
Do you need to...