So what techniques do you use?
I use the teachings and the techniques of Neuro Linguistic Programming, Hypnosis and Timeline Therapy®. I am a professional member of the Association of Neuro Linguistic Programming and I work within their guidelines and ethics of my certifications.
What is Neuro Linguistic Programming?
The roots of Neurolinguistic Programming come from the application of studying three exceptionally talented communicators in the therapeutic setting: a psychiatrist, a family therapist and a hypnotherapist. NLP captured the nuts and bolts of ‘how’ these people created the magic they did in creating such effective and positive change in people. This led to a structure for how others could also learn how to think and act in the same way as all three of these experts combined, which in turn could allow practitioners to assist people in making positive change.
Unlike some other models of therapy, which work at a conscious level and can involve lengthy discussion about past issues. NLP is interested in how you are structuring the problem for yourself in the present moment and looks at creating changes at the unconscious level. Perhaps you are repeating a loop of unhelpful audio dialogue, or visualising a picture of a past event or an imagined catastrophe. NLP has the tools to help you to make automatic alterations to these unconscious patterns and replace them with positive and productive patterns in their place. This can happen as quickly happen at a snap of the fingers.
A good NLP practitioner will use powerful questions and the elegant use of language to help clients to deconstruct their problems and change their pattern of thinking. They will also use up-to-date techniques or interventions that utilise the clients unconscious mind so that the client can access more resourceful ways to overcome their problems.
NLP also has a basis of useful ‘beliefs’ or presuppositions that the practitioner adopts in order to become a successful therapist. Some of these can be found on my webpage right here.
What is hypnosis?
Hypnosis is a way of being able to relax deeply, switch off the more analytical part of your consciousness, and be able to receive and deeply embed new ideas and suggestions that will be beneficial for you. It is a way of accessing the deeper sense of yourself that often sits below the surface.
Hypnosis helps to turn down the volume of the more conscious part of yourself and allows you to access your unconscious, your unconscious is in control of your ‘gut feelings’. Hypnosis can be very useful as a form of healing as it allows the client to get back in touch with a deeper part of themselves, it can provide people with answers or epiphanies, or simply a chance to enter into a peaceful, safe or resourceful state of mind.
Can I be hypnotised?
Yes. Everyone has a different way of accessing and experiencing their own trance state. We enter hypnotic states on a daily basis. Have you ever perfectly completed a task such as driving or cooking and only realised what you have done once you have finished? Has a stressful situation happened and you suddenly and unexpectedly dealt with it like a superhero without even thinking? Have you lost 5 or more minutes vividly living the life of the lottery winner in your head? These were all powerful hypnotic states for you. Perhaps you are only realising now how many times you have already hypnotised yourself without even realising it.
We can all learn how to be hypnotised, and access a state of relaxation, and everyone can take on board suggestions that are appropriate for them unconsciously. Because everyone is different, it takes a talented hypnotist to assist the person in helping them to find their own unique way in doing this.
Are there any dangers involved with NLP and Hypnosis?
NLP and hypnosis normally take place in the form of the masterful use of listening and language with another person. For many people a common concern is that the techniques could be being used in a way that is against your own interests. In reality the techniques only work and are only useful for you if you feel comfortable with the person you are working with. The key is to find someone who is a professional and who you trust is going to work with your outcomes in mind. This is similar to spending time to find a car to a mechanic who you believe will look after your car properly, or a baby sitter who won’t just do an average job, but a sensational job.
To ensure your safety I work within my training, remit and insurance.
Take time to research and contact the person you wish to work with, if you don’t feel comfortable when you meet them, follow your gut and try someone else.
Are your sessions confidential?
Yes. Before we begin a session I will provide you with a Coach Client Agreement, this states that my sessions are confidential and I will only use information from the session with your written permission.
If I believe you or another person is in immediate danger of serious or life-threatening abuse then I am obliged to contact the police.
Why do you call yourself a coach?
I am a certified NLP coach as well as a climbing coach. A coach is someone who helps others to get from A to B in the most effective way for that person, and this is how I view myself and how I would like others to understand the nature of my work. By being a coach I have a wide range of skills available to use and a helpful framework in which to use them. I am doing my best to not put myself into a box, and by being outside the box I have the most flexibility in being highly effective at what I do.
Will my problems disappear and can they come back?
It is completely possible for your problem to disappear permanently. Sometimes the biggest barrier can be the current limits of your imagination. For instance if we worked together over a fear of spiders, you may be working with a belief that you are only capable of being okay with being close to a spider, but never holding one. This could be a spectacular breakthrough for you, however perhaps one day a spider will touch you and you will be disappointed that you react to that in a phobic way. How about if you could work with imagining yourself so courageous that you can hold any spider that you know is harmless, and feel absolute joy in letting it continue its new life in the garden? The vision of the new you has to be one that is plausible for you. Sometimes this will take several sessions as you learn to break through your old limiting beliefs.
At other times your problem may completely disappear and then you find it comes creeping back. Just like if you want to maintain a strong body you have to put your trainers on and leave the house at least three times a week. To achieve a strong mind you have to give it some conditioning. At the end of a session we will discuss new ways to condition your mind.
What falls outside of your scope of practice?
I do not work with: Treating medical conditions, psychological conditions, severe trauma, PTSD, alcoholism or drug abuse, or anyone who I believe could be a danger to themselves or others. There are a great many medical experts, therapists and groups that have specialist training and knowledge in these areas.
What if I find out something about myself I don’t want to know
After an initial consultation sometimes we will discover that it turns out that the problem or habit you have has some kind of value for you. For instance perhaps being known as someone who is slightly large and eats cakes means that you secretly enjoy being known for hosting jolly picnic parties, or how you are seen by children. Or perhaps the occasional cigarette is actually a moment that you truly love to have as it gives you time away from stress to stop and think. If it isn’t really a problem for you, then it isn’t something that I can help you to change.
I work to assist you in achieving the results you wish for, and then we make a plan for how to achieve these results. A major part of my job is to be constantly aware whether or not the suggestions and techniques I use are effective with you, and to adapt my workings to make sure I am as efficient as possible. If I don’t believe that I can assist you I will let you know at the quickest possible notice.
Sometimes at the end of a session you will be allotted some tasks, this is to provide you with opportunities to seek evidence that demonstrates all the ways in which you have changed.
After all of this, if you find that you have experienced no significant change then we can discuss how best that we can recoup the value for you, either through money or through an additional session.
Isn’t it too much money?
Yes it is compared to buying a healthy dinner or some new clothes.
It can be much cheaper than a weekend at a spa or a hotel,
and it’s definitely cheaper than buying a new car.
The desired outcome is that most people will finish a short number of sessions (it may only need to be one) and they will finish having left behind a problem that may have been holding them back all their life and instead have a feeling of absolute freedom and power over their own life. For many people the value of this is beyond measure.
I’m pretty sceptical of NLP the unconscious mind or that I can be hypnotised, will this still work for me?
This is not an unusual concern, and a good dose of critical thinking is always recommended. Everyone has their own unique questions or concerns, if you can’t find the answers on this website then please contact me. Perhaps we can have a Skype or a cup of tea or coffee and a chat. These things are always best discussed face to face. Or if you have any particular concerns you can email me and I’ll do my best to help.
Where do you work from?
I most commonly meet people in the conference rooms of Redpoint Bristol Climbing Centre. However other therapy rooms and locations are available throughout Bristol. Occasionally a quick meet up in a coffee shop or in a local park can be arranged depending on the nature of the work we will be doing. I choose not to make home visits unless there is a very special circumstance. If you live outside of Bristol then something can still be arranged no matter how far. Simply contact me.
You are also a climber. Can you help me with my climbing head-game?
Absolutely I can. In the future I will be running specific climbing sessions. In the mean time please contact me and we will take it from there.